He Said. She Said. – What female/male instincts, societal and/or natural, pressures do you feel in your relationship?
Posted in He Said. She Said., Jack, Jill, Other and tagged with Couples, Dating, Marriage, Men opinion, Relationships, Women opinion on 07/14/2009 11:55 am by Jack and Jill| He Said
I’ve got to be the breadwinner. ‘She’ shouldn’t have to work so hard. If I were a better provider she could do something she really loves. If I’d work a little harder we could do all the things we’d ever dreamed. I should bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan. And I really wish I could. Cuz, we love bacon. - Jack |
She Said
Sure. I’ll admit it. I have an instinct that says ‘I want to be taken care of by my man while I tend to the home and family.’ It’s not a dominant instinct but it is there and I am not sure where it exactly comes from. Is it my personality, upbringing, society or maybe it was handed down by the hunters and gathers living in caves eating dinosaurs? Tastes like chicken. I will say it is natural for me to be motherly and be a care giver to people I love. It is an overwhelming feeling I have to make Jack and Spot comfortable and happy. When work gets to be too busy and Jack ends up picking up most of the slack, I miss it in a way and wish I was doing it. Yes, I said it. It’s in writing. Jack will never let me forget it. Curse you blog and your questions!! With all that said, this motherly instinct is about wanting to be the boss and having things just how I want them. Am I right? Or am I right? -Jill |
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July 14th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
I think you are right about the connection of motherly and being the boss! Having motherly instincts are not about being submissive or taken care of, they are about the nurturing of something. It may be a child, relationship or a business. Anything you nurture, means of course that you have an intended direction for it to go(as it should)
. Being taken care of is the desire to feel safe.
bottom line…I think you need both to exist! Most people that have a ton of money and no work to get there…lose it! Monetarily and mentally. Not sure if any of this applies…but you got me thinking! FYI: Bacon Rocks!
I think in this day and age we require balance of mothering/parenting and being taken care of. There is no one or the other anymore. I think people that do nothing and are taken care of are frowned upon (granted…most likely jealous of to a point)Society has taught us that we all want to be somebody…that somebody is proud of
July 14th, 2009 at 5:17 pm
#1 – love the blog format.
second – I think it’s most important to do what you love – If one is a better bread winner today, there’s a reason – things may change tomorrow
Last – the comment above, makes a great point.
July 14th, 2009 at 5:47 pm
I love staying at home and taking care of our vegemite – however, sometimes I feel like I should be contributing, only because I think, that I have always worked and taken care of myself, and now suddenly I am married and have a baby and I am at home and living off someone else and that has been very hard to get used to……BUT nothing is compared to taking care of vegemite……AND I am kinda relishing being a housewife (dare I say it)…for my hubby….heheheheheheheeeeeee
July 14th, 2009 at 8:08 pm
I think all the comments above make some very good points. Things and times have a way of changing. But one thing never changes, women have alot more to say about the subject. (smile)
July 15th, 2009 at 8:20 pm
So glad I found your blog! It is really interesting reading everyone’s thoughts and opinion!
July 22nd, 2009 at 10:00 pm
Thanks for all the great comments! This was great:)!
July 23rd, 2009 at 2:43 am
I think we have been dealing with this exact issue for too long. Do we live in our home town where we both must work to get by, or do we raise our children in a big city and give them a stay at home mom? Who knows.
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